Tag Archives: Parenting

Trust is built One Interaction at a Time

One dad tells the story of playing Candy Land with his little girl. “I hate Candy Land,” he says. “When she’s suppose to move one space, she moves two. I can never win. But I play Candy Land now so I can talk about her boyfriends when she’s 16.”

His girl typically wins, she has a positive experience, it’s personal, low risk, and his interactions are frequent.

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We Love more than we Trust

Think about all the people you love. Now picture those that you trust. There is a good chance that you trust less people than you love. The most effective method of building trust requires interaction that is…

  • Frequent
  • Low-risk
  • Personal
  • Positive

I use the acronym of FLPP. Remember this is for developing trust when you are in a low trust environment.

Let’s say you are struggling with a teenage son and he is becoming more isolated from you by the day. Consider the four steps to developing trust and determine which step you need to work on.

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But I’m Right

If you ever wonder why your brilliance isn’t appreciated the way it should be, perhaps you are too concerned with being right. Here is a two-minute video that explains why being right is not always important. If your prospect, client, patient, child, or spouse doesn’t want your opinion, how is being right going to help?

Enjoy this bonus video that is from High Probability’s Powerful Listening course with Jacques Werth.  Jacques is the founder and President of High Probability Selling.

This is an introduction video to the Powerful Listening course I teach with Jacques Werth.

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Blind Spots in Life

A Blind Spot is a behavior or a comment you make that creates push back from another person that you are not aware of.

In January 2011, I was interviewed by Eric Michaels on the concept of Blind Spots for eDrugstore.md

Here is a link to the interview.

 

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Becoming Aware of the Process of making Friends

How did you do?

Most people report how difficult and exhausting it was to listen without offering an opinion. If you earnestly tried to keep your mouth quiet, you will have noticed how much everyone around you constantly gives their opinions without solicitation.

How did that make you feel? Do you like hearing everyone’s opinion without asking for it?

How do you think others feel when you give them your opinions when they haven’t asked for them?

You may be thinking, “But what I have to say is right.”

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> Hormones = < Brains

Last week I taught a class of 16 and 17-year olds. The night before they attended Prom. My wife thinks that piece of evidence is important. There were five students, three boys and two girls. The topic was not difficult or deep but the questions required thinking. The girls were offended at the end of class while the boys enjoyed it.

I interrupted the girls on a constant basis with questions as they shared covert messages with each other while the boys did not engage in such actions. The girls complained that the teacher went too far with the lesson and brought in material that was interesting but not applicable while the boys’ favorite part was the applicability of the outside material they had never heard.

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A Ground Truth Conversation

The holidays are approaching and the Official Truth is that this is the season for happiness, family, office parties, joy, excitement, and giving.

The Ground Truth is there will be a peak in suicides, fights, domestic violence, depression, and couples not going to bed in the same space, if you get my drift.

Why?

Can it be avoided?

Can it be stopped?

Can it be replaced with something else?

The conversation I am proposing is with yourself. We are about to celebrate a New Year. This is an exercise that will prepare you for another New Year’s resolution. Perhaps this one will stick?

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Is that the Official Truth, the Ground Truth, or the Underground Truth?

In life there are three truths we deal with:

Official Truth

Ground Truth

Underground Truth

The official truth is the truth that you discuss in public.

The ground truth is the truth that you discuss in private.

The underground truth is the truth that you ignore, avoid, and fear. This is the reality that is often not seen until too late.

FINANCES

The official truth is that our finances are fine.

The ground truth is that we’re on the verge of losing our house and possibly filing bankruptcy.

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TIP #1 My Daughter Is Gaining Weight…

I received this question recently: My daughter is hitting puberty and is gaining weight. What can I do? She isn’t motivated to exercise or play sports.

If you want some ideas on how to address this or similar situations with your children, I’ve attached a report you can download and read.

The report is called: TIP #1

If you want more information on parenting and effective communication with your kids, click here for a free month’s worth of videos and reports.

Enjoy.

Richard

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Free Trust In Parenting Lessons

Are you frustrated with how you communicate with your children. It doesn’t matter if they are 6, 16, 26, or 56.

The space we share with our children is precious and can be full of great memories.

The foundation of that space is love. It’s argued that a parent’s love is unconditional.

But love is not enough for obedience and success. In order for obedience, success, growth, and conflict resolution, a skill set equipped with trust, respect and effective communication skills are required.

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