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Tag Archives: Communication
Stop! Before You Make Your New Year’s Resolution
Hold off on that resolution! How about some clarity on what you’re doing.
Each year you create a set of goals that make you feel good when you write them down. Your temporary feeling of success gets emboldened when you share your goals with another.
You hear yourself articulate the future and actually believe you’re going to lose 30 lbs. by March or that you’re going to get a Y membership and really show up and break a sweat.
Maybe your New Year’s resolution is to stop criticizing your wife? Nah, why would you do that when she earns every narcissistic comment spewing forth from your mouth?
Posted in Children, Communication, Family, Marriage
Tagged Communication, Effective Communication, New Year's Resolution, New Year's Resolutions
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Conflict vs. Contention
What Is The Difference Between Conflict And Contention
The very comparison of these words creates both conflict and contention. In many heart breaking coaching discussions, I’ve learned that having a clear understanding of these two contrasting words can bring peace of mind and warmth of heart to a relationship. But only when properly and harmoniously understood.
Conflict:
Conflict is sharing the same end result but seeing a different path. Conflict is necessary for progress. Conflict is healthy and sought for and it is to be resolved. Thus the very existence of conflict is a call for resolution and growth. Without conflict, we cannot grow, progress, eradicate mediocrity, and experience joy.
Posted in Communication
Tagged Chick Hut, Collusion, Communication, Conflict, Contention, Man Cave
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What vs. How
Effective communication is at the heart of a healthy family life. Financial well-being, marriage, and the success of children are all related to your level of communication skills. The vast majority of teenage misbehavior and marital frustrations can be solved with effective communication skills.
Communication skills are not passed through your DNA like red hair. They are skills that are studied, learned, and mastered. This is a life-long process that doesn’t stop with learning a singular tool or concept. The process requires constant attention and practice.
Try Different not Harder
Posted in Communication, Divorce, Uncategorized
Tagged churches, Communication, how, Religion, what
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Brown M&Ms in Parenting
Yesterday I posted a blog on how brown M&Ms hinder sales and business. Here’s the story.
Remember the rock band Van Halen? On tour, the band would show up with nine 18-wheelers full of gear. Because of the technical complexity, the band’s standard contract for venues was thick and convoluted. It required the venue’s stagehands to pay close attention the contract’s details in order to properly prep for the band’s arrival. If the venue did not do their due diligence in reading the contract it compromised Van Halens’ ability to setup in time for the show.
In a stroke of genius, Van Halen’s lead singer, David Lee Roth, embedded an obscure clause in the middle of the contract that became known as clause 126 and read something like this: “There will be no brown M&Ms in the backstage area, upon pain of forfeiture of the show, with full compensation.”
Posted in Communication, Family
Tagged Communication, Raising Children, Teaching, Teenagers
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How to handle an Angry Person
Here is a link to an article written by Jacques Werth, the founder and President of High Probability Selling™.
Jacques has been my teacher and mentor for many years now and I ‘m fortunate to be associated with him.
Enjoy.
Posted in Communication
Tagged Arguing, Avoid fighting, Communication, Effective Communication
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The Jockey and the Elephant
As humans we have two driving forces, they are:
- Mind
- Heart
Let’s liken the mind to a jockey and the heart to an elephant. As long as the elephant wants to go where the jockey wants to go, there is harmony within the human. However, when the elephant becomes rogue, looses control, gets sidetracked, or flies off the handle, the jockey must go along for the ride.
According to Forrest Gump, life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what’s going to happen next. However, if the elephant is trained and obeys the jockey, all the chocolates are the square caramel ones.
Posted in Communication, Family
Tagged Arguing, Avoid fighting, Communication, Conflict, Effective Communication, Emotions, Mind vs. Heart
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Parent’s Pain Priority Plan
Parenting is a shuffling act when things go well, but when life backs up like bad plumbing, even chaos is a welcomed friend. What each parent needs is a Parenting plan that prioritizes what will inevitably come – pain. Pain me now or pain me later. The one certain aspect of parenting is that you will have pain.
It’s 25 minutes past bed time and your 8 year-old-crumb-crunchin’ piece of energy gets out of bed and taps you on the shoulder as you finally settle down to watch your favorite TV program.
Decision time: pain avoidance or pain priority.
The Curse of Knowledge
As we rounded the corner Stuart proudly pedaled his bike ahead of the family down the hill towards our house. As he picked up speed I could see impending doom as two cars were converging on the intersection my 3-year old son was approaching.
For the past 2 weeks since I allegedly taught Stuart how to ride his two-wheeler, Stuart has been riding his bicycle all over our back yard, which at the time was the 9th hole of our local golf course.
The You Pyramid
Sitting deep as the root cause of many a broken marriage or teenager gone prodigal is the lack of knowledge and skill of how to be anything different. Being like everyone else is a metaphor for failure.
The You Pyramid™ is a skill set and a knowledge base. It’s where people who want happiness and joy in relationships are found. The You Pyramid™ is the anti-thesis of The Me Pyramid™.
The You Pyramid™ consists of four layers.
- Teach
- Trust
- Listen
- See
Sandwiched between each pyramid is the word tell. It serves as a tipping point to either pyramid.
Posted in Communication
Tagged Communication, Effective Communication, Family communication, Parenting, Teaching
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